A couple weeks ago my 8 year old Lilly and I were having one of our normal conversations. The topics ranged from how school has been, her friends, things she wants to do in the summer and a ton of other subjects. Towards the end of our conversation she looked at me and softly said “I don’t get to spend a lot of time with Daddy Brian.”. It kind of took me by surprise but the more I had thought about it she was right, she doesn’t get to spend much time with him. Between school, her spending time at her Dads and Brians work schedule there isn’t a whole lot of them time. I brought this up to Brian and he agreed, within a few minutes of our conversation he said he knew what he was going to do to change that. That is when he called Lilly into our bedroom and then proceeded to ask her out on a date, just him and her. Her little face lit up and said “Like a real date?” that was followed by quite a few more questions from her to which Brian answered them all. For the days leading up to their little date she had to figure out what she would wear, what they were going to do and repeatedly asking me if it was the day of their date. She always had in her mind that she wanted to dress fancy while Brian on the other hand was more about wearing comfortable clothing. The day before the big day she picked a fancy dress, she talked about how she wanted her hair done, the shoes she would wear. She picked out her favorite princess dress which is from Kids Dream USA, she says that the dress is perfect for a date and that it’s super fancy. I have to admit that she is completely right, like I mentioned before Brian was all about wearing comfortable clothing well that was until Lilly asked a question he couldn’t say no to. Prior to going to bed she asked if he would wear fancy clothes too and of course he did.
It was the day of their big date and boy was Lilly excited, this was a day just for her and Brian. There was no little brother or Mom, just her and her step dad. There date began with a late lunch at Chili’s, I’m unsure how they picked the place but regardless they both loved what they got. After that they decided it was time for a movie, they went and saw The Jungle Book. I didn’t really ask anything about the movie because I didn’t want any spoilers so don’t worry you all are safe. But what I do know is the movie was very very very good according to both of them. After their movie Lilly wanted to come home because she had an upset tummy so it kind of put a damper on their day. From the time that they did have to spend one on one time they both enjoyed it. So much so that they decided to do it again except with a one or two changes. Lilly said next time they will wear comfortable (everyday) clothing because being fancy is way to much.
The ultimate goal of their date was to show Lilly that we did understand her wanting to spend more time with her step dad. With daily life it’s pretty easy to not notice something until it’s brought to your attention, both Brian and I are happy that she told us how she felt so we could work on fixing it. We decided that once a month Lilly will have a special date with her step dad along with a special date with me. Once Lucas is older we will begin to do this with him too, as of right now he doesn’t really care (lol). I don’t want to make this to long so I will end it here but I plan on bringing you guys some more tidbits of our life.